Are You Struggling To Manage Your Relationships?

Do you long to find a good relationship but have had trouble meeting people? Do you worry that you might just be settling for someone instead of finding the ‘right’ person? Perhaps you are uncertain whether things will work out between you and another person, and this has made it difficult for you to seek out relationships.

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It could be that you have trouble maintaining relationships once they’ve started. Have you found yourself in several toxic relationships in the past and wonder why this keeps happening? Are you starting to worry that maybe you’ll never find the right person, or are you concerned that you aren’t good enough?

Perhaps you’re currently in a relationship, but there have been a lot of bumps along the way. Do you find it difficult to express yourself to your partner, or vice versa? Has this created frustration that has caused one or both of you to lash out? Maybe you’re feeling confused, tired, and frustrated with the way things are going.

Ultimately, you are tired of feeling alone and likely just want to find someone who can meet you on your level—yet sometimes, it feels like that might never happen. You may be interested in getting help for relationships, but you don’t know where to start. 

Many People Struggle With Relationship Issues

Relationship problems are increasingly common, and most people will experience them at some point in their lives—whether they may encounter difficulties entering a relationship or difficulties maintaining a healthy one.

Humans are social creatures. This means that we will naturally try to connect with others and, conversely, fear being alone. But while we’d like to avoid loneliness, we also fear being hurt. This fear is often emphasized by early life experiences—specifically, the relationships that we form with our caretakers. If we don’t develop a good relationship with them—or they model a bad relationship—then these experiences are likely to imprint on us and we carry them into our adult life. Depending on the experience, it can be difficult to trust another person. This can create self-sabotaging tendencies, difficulty expressing thoughts and feelings, and a fear of vulnerability.

Additionally, there is often societal pressure to be in a relationship and to avoid showing ‘weakness.’ This type of conditioning can cause people to rush into relationships or can make it difficult for them to communicate their needs to their partners.

But you don’t have to struggle in your relationships forever. Counseling can help you identify what has been holding you back and can teach you to forge meaningful, lasting relationships.

Relationship Counseling Is The First Step Forward

Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.
— Brene Brown

Therapy is incredibly useful for learning to navigate relationship issues. Talking about your concerns with a licensed professional can help you identify self-sabotaging tendencies, teach you how to have honest conversations, and give you the skills to build stronger relationships.

I believe it is important to have a safe space to talk about the problems you face in a relationship. That’s why I offer a non-judgmental space—I want to help you build trust, both in others and in yourself. Additionally, it’s important to have those potentially difficult conversations about your past. While I don’t believe we should dwell on it, the past can help inform about how to make different choices in the future.

Because everyone is different, each session will be tailor-made for your situation. I will discuss with you what your goals are and what you’re looking for in a relationship, and then I will help you build a plan to reach those goals. We will likely do a lot of awareness work so that you can be more conscious, not just of your situation, but of your own wants and needs.

I am a body-centered therapist. This means that I believe the body is strongly connected with thoughts and feelings. Just focusing on one area is very limiting. Therefore, we will focus on how all these areas connect instead. For example, if thinking a certain way creates a heavy feeling in your chest, we’ll discuss what that might mean. We’ll go at the pace you want and will use whatever method works best for you.

Aside from body-centered therapy, I am trained in Gestalt therapy, primal therapy, and client centered therapy. I focus greatly on using positive psychology and mindfulness in my sessions, but ultimately, we will do whatever is best for your situation.

I know the ins-and-outs of managing relationships very well, both through personal and professional observations. I have been married eleven years, and many of the skills I will teach you, I learned from experience. Additionally, I have been a practicing counselor for seven years and have a Masters in Mental Health Counseling. I also regularly participate in workshops to obtain new skills that I may be able to pass along to my clients.

By engaging in therapy, you can learn how to break through your fears and embrace vulnerability. Once you do so, you may find that your relationships are more rewarding and long-lasting than you ever thought possible.

You may still have reservations about relationship counseling…

I don’t think I’ll ever actually find someone, so what’s the point of counseling?

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built up against it.
— Rumi

If you aren’t finding a good partner, it could be because of mental hang-ups or past troubles holding you back—in which case, counseling can help you clear those issues and set you up to be more successful in your relationships. Alternatively, you may just be putting yourself in the wrong places. Relationship counseling can help you identify what you want in a partner, which can prepare you for finding someone you’d really like to spend your life with.

I’m tired of getting hurt.

Putting yourself out there and being vulnerable opens the potential for being hurt, and it’s understandable that you may be afraid. However, you also have the potential to experience love to a greater degree than you’ve ever imagined. Counseling can help prepare you for this so that you can approach a relationship with more confidence.

I don’t have the time for counseling.

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I understand that it can be difficult to find time in your busy day for one more thing, but if you’re struggling in your relationships, I encourage you to try. It can save you a lot of time and effort in the long run and can help improve your relationships.

Relationship Counseling Can Help You Create Stronger Relationships

If you are interested in learning more, I offer a free 20-minute phone consultation at (201)-280-3541. I am best contacted either through my scheduling form or through email. If you are interested in building relationships that will last, then I encourage you to schedule an appointment.